First of all, we all get cheated on. This is not one of those topics where we discuss which gender cheats the most, but rather who actually does it the worst.
Historically men are known to be the biggest cheats. However, women have shifted the game and they took Ferbing to another level. It’s not even about the degree at which they are doing it, it’s more about what influences this behaviour. Women are emotional beings, they make decisions based on how they feel at any particular point in time.
In most cases when men do cheat, it is because the poor guy is at the right party at the right time. Not necessarily because he has feelings for the woman he is cheating with.
A man usually ensures that the woman he cheats with respects his main woman. He’d never allow any other woman to talk trash about her. A man makes sure he keeps reminding his concubine(s) that he cannot get involved in anything beyond sex, whether it occurs frequently or just once. Point is, a man stays loving his woman and nothing ever changes that. At least not some lousy cheating.
However when a woman is the one who’s cheating, an element that makes men feels so betrayed is the fact that women cannot hoe logically. They involve emotions. A woman will likely cheat with a guy she feels something for.
What makes men feel so broken, is that it means she has obviously started loving someone else. She has let a new guy into a realm her man thought only he could tap into. It gets to a point where it’s not only about her feeding the ediot sex, but her obviously seeking security from that nigga. That breaks a man’s spirit and he ends up feeling like he’s failed to keep a woman.
This justifies why post heartbreaks come with a new phase in a guy’s life. In fact a break up implies a new life altogether to us. Men don’t cheat with intentions of disrespect. If he loves his woman, he speaks highly of her in whatever space he could be. For us, finding a chance to cheat is just a momentary thing. Once it’s over then it’s over. It won’t affect our conscience because the situation is not that deep. There is nothing else to stay for after that quick sex.
Now women on the other hand tend to have a “confession behaviour” whenever they are guilty of something. A common one is when she randomly reassures her man how much she loves him when guilt tripping.
My favorite is when they get too excited in a conversation to a point where they leave traces of evidence. She’d tell you she is out with her friends when she’s out cheating and you believe her. Two weeks later during pillow talk when she’s forgotten about her lies she then contradicts the lies she told you before.
Also a woman tends to let a guy she’s cheating with call her man all sorts of names while she lays there laughing instead. Women cheat with an intent of disrespect, and further allow their mess to disrespect their men.
We men have egos. Which is why even when my girl is only being polite to another guy, to me this guy is making efforts to sleep with my girl. Because if I were him that’s what I would also do to get the attention from another man’s woman.
Another example; She will say it’s no big deal to study all night with Sipho at his place. When you complain she will call you insecure for being a realist since women are too naive, unless they are plotting against you. Little does she know that you’re aware that this Sipho will try to dick her down way before the studying gets to question 2.
People are born with instincts. If your person tells you they don’t like someone being around you, they can sense that the person is trouble. Particularly men, the embarrassment that goes with a woman cheating is soul crippling.
Lastly I encourage that if someone cheats on you, dismiss them out of your life immediately. So that when you take time to heal then you’re not constantly reminded by their being around. You don’t want an ex in your space when you start seeing other people. Mize all the witchcraft and negativity. This goes to all genders