You could imagine an inter-sexual relationship as probably one of your stunts to get money from your parent to go out late with your friends when you have to babysit,NEVER WORKED OUT.Anyone who thinks this is not true,they are probably in this situation and will be the reason it won’t last.
Here’s the logic;always one of the two parties always has to fall for the other.If you are not the one who thinks that there could be more about them that you want than just “friendship” then you should definitely know that they are conspiring 1 million ways to attract you without you even realizing,which is always the case.So if you are enjoying the benefits of being just friends with a guy or girl at least be aware because really,it is just beyond pointless convincing yourself that a chance of them liking is not in the realm of possibility.This goes only for innocent friendships that do not have any agreement or nature of some sort.
As for friends-with-benefits-friendships,every time,one’s benefits in the friendship comes at the cost of another.Guys prefer sexual and intimate benefits while girls on the other hand prefer instead security,commitment,monetary resources,advice and mostly knowledge about how males think,however this is not limited to both sexes because guys may look for commitment as well or other things in the friendship.
Mostly when one party is content or satisfied about what their counterpart is forth bringing,this might cause the other to feel like they are only being used.A girl might feel like she’s not taken seriously if all a guy asks for is sex,not meaning that the girl is not enjoying it as well.A guy might also feel like taking out his friend-with-benefits or sitting with her for a civil conversation is a waste of time and money,or a girl might want to take the level of the relation to a more platonic level,which is mostly frustrating for guys.
This goes to prove that inter-sexual friendships are a tough cookie to crack.In every case where the said friendship is beneficial to one and too frustrating for the other,some little common problems arise and we have seen them through different experiences.This eventually leads to some people feeling like,or even literally being put in the infamous friend-zone(with no benefits).
Males and females can never be friends because one man’s meat is another man’s poison,meaning is one is happy then the other most likely frustrated,however this post is not biased towards the fact that there could be other ideas that I didn’t include in it.Somebody might feel different and have a totally different argument.Thanks for reading.I am out.
NB: Wale ft SZA x The need to know is pretty relevant to this topic.